processing the "shit radical queers say" video everyone keeps putting up on facebook
J:dude, i was going to say something but now i can't remember
J:oh, have you seen that shit radical queers say or whatever it is
me:Yeah my friend and i had a long talk about it last night
J:i feel like i dont get it
J:it makes me unhappy
J:and all these people i know are posting it with comments that say like "OMG YESSS" and i'm like, what am i missing here this seems kind of fucked up to me
me:Yeah Idk why people are taking it the way they are
J:why is saying "I'm trans" offensive or wrong
J:according to this video
me:I understand it to be like oh here's idiosyncratic things bay area queer folks say to each other that edge on bullshit
J:hmm
me:Which is why i don't get the I'm trans part
J:yeah
me:I guess like I'm trans because its "trendy"
J:...
J:also i think i get the "i mostly date trans guys" part but it just felt icky. i don't know. i didn't like it
J:i liked the part where the person was holding a banjo
me:What i told my friend is that i think a lot of these ways of talking come from trans folks needing to get therapy for letters and shit and then that kind of language creeps into conversation
J:like processing or something?
me:Right
me:So i kind of hate it when language like that gets pegged as exclusive
J:its also from lesbian feminist culture which starting reclaiming the language of therapy for self care like in the 70s or before
me:Right
J:people talk like that in pat califia books haha
J:while they're like shoving motorcycle parts up each others hoohas
becoming-wave said:
the “i’m trans” part was confusing. like, ok? so? some of the other stuff was just way too familiar. SOME comments nailed the cliquish character of the scene. i felt that coz i’m really put off by how much you have to transform who you are to fit in.